How to Deal with a Broken Heart

        No matter how strong you may think you are or how you made it seemed to be, it'd be a lie if you say you have never cried because of a broken heart before. Because everyone does. It's no use trying to act like it never happened or like you're okay with it because it isn't and it shows. Maybe not on your expression but your eyes will always give it away so don't try so hard to hide it. It's okay to be heart broken. It's not a crime. Everybody gets hurt sometimes. That's why we are born with feelings, right? To feel. And if feeling hurt is a feeling, then for sure you have to feel it. If you ask me, I'd rather feel hurt than not feeling anything at all. Wait, let me think that over. Haha!

        It's not easy trying to deal with a broken heart because it hurts like hell. A guy that you like doesn't like you back and suddenly you feel like your world comes crashing down and every day is suffocating. Well, at that time it may seem that way but you'll get over it sooner or later. So, how are you going to get over heartbreak? How are you going to mend a broken heart. Well, the best solution is time. Nothing heals better than time. But of course waiting for time to do the healing would dreadful because these kind of wounds usually take a long time to heal. While waiting for time to do it's magic, you can try doing other things to keep your mind off your broken heart and that person who broke it.


     1#  The First Step: CRY Your Heart Out

        The first thing you have to do is cry. Let it out. Don't hide your pain and suppress it just because of those people who thinks it's stupid to cry over someone who doesn't like you back. It's not stupid to like someone. We're only humans after all. We fall in love and get hurt. And if they don't like it, then they should stop being humans. There's no need to be all sarcastic about it. Maybe they think it's stupid because to them they're other more important things to think about but hey, pain is still pain. It can't be measured, meaning that you can't compare you pain with someone else's. You can't say to someone that your pain is greater than theirs. For example, saying that your friend should shut up and stop crying over some jerk who broke her heart because you think if someone should be crying right now, it should be you because you lost you parents. WHATTT?? You can't do that. It's not right. So tell those people yeah, maybe they're right. Maybe there are other important things to think about then cry over something like this but it's not a crime to cry. Just let those heartbroken people cry. Don't say anything and let them cry. Because if it was those people who are so sarcastic about it, they'd cry too.


     2#  The Second Step: Talk about It

        After crying your heart out, it won't be enough. You need someone to lean on and talk to. You can cry again in front of your friends if you want to. It's not like you can cry once and then not cry anymore. Crying kinda makes it hurt a little less. Don't keep it all bottled up inside. It'll only hurt more. Sometimes talking about it makes things a little bit better. Why? Well, because, you let it out- the things that you've been wanting to say out loud. But of course, you can't talk to just anyone, even though sometimes it feels like the strangers you met on the streets are more interested in what you're going to say than people who actually know you, because you can't simply trust just anyone, right?


     3#  The Third Step: Try to Get that Person Off Your Mind 

        After letting it all out, now you can start pulling yourself together.  Try to get that person off your mind and maybe out of your heart but don't hate him just because he doesn't feel the same way you do. Hating someone is never a good thing, now is it? Do things that you love. Listen to music. Dance or something. Write a poem or something. If it was me, I'd probably write a poem about my heartbreak. Hehehe~ There are a lot of fun things you can do.

  

     4#   The Last Step: Forgive and Forget (and Let Go)

      Finally, the last step is to forgive, forget and let go. If there are still things that are left unsaid and you feel that it should be said then tell that  person and settle things gently like adults. And hey, you can still be friends, right? That's the mature thing to do. Don't do childish things like trying to ruin his life or something. Let it go and just walk away.

    And if you're still not over him then I suggest you look at Lee MInho's pictures and be all "where have you been all my life?" Hahaha!!

LEE MINHO!!! Kyaaa~

P/s: Give a round of applause to cik adibahhh for giving me the idea to post this kind of entry. Ngehehehe~
She wants me to post more entry about love and stuff. Hey, dibah kalo  ade request en bgtaw je la. hikhikhik~




    

Wordless Wednesday: I Heart Romione

He Says She Says

   

"  To her, he'll change for her if he truly loves her.

But to him, she won't ask him to change if she truly loves him  "

     The men like to say that women are just complicated but to women, men are just TOO complicated for them to understand. What is simple to women is complicated to men and what is simple to men is complicated to women. In other words, men and women are just too different from each other. The way they think, the way they talk, the way they walk, the way they look at each other.. they're just different. One of the reasons why they're perfect for each other. You know what they say, opposites attracts.

      Because we're so different from each other, maybe that's why we're always argue with each other and it always starts because of a small matter. For example, the girl is jealous when the guy talks to other girls or the guy didn't notice that the girl just cut her hair or had a manicure. (Really girls, really? Hahah) But sometimes, these kind of silly, little argument are what makes the relationship grows stronger. Is it? I could be wrong. I'm just babbling here. Hahaha! It's okay to have these kind of silly arguments only if it didn't end up in a big fight because then it'll become a big problem. But then again, you'll make up. So no harm done.

      There are many situations where guys feels like girls just don't understand them and it really annoys them. But, guys, you don't understand us either so what's all the fuss about. We're even.  

Situation 1: The Question

Girl: Did you notice anything different about me today?

Guy: (Didn't even so much as glance at the girl) You cut your hair? No, wait, you lost weight! Yep, that's it! You lost some weight! 

Girl: You didn't even look at me.. (starts to get angry) I just had a manicure and I didn't wear any make up today because you said you like a girl who takes cares of her nails and who doesn't wear any make up on her face because she feels confident of her looks. How cold you not notice? (starts to go on a rampage)

Opinion: Guys, you should at least look at the girl before giving any comments. Yeah, maybe it's not easy for you guys to actually notice anything different about your girl but at least try to notice it. To you she's already beautiful and you feel there's no need for her to dress up and try to look pretty for you. You feel that it's a bit irritating when she ask that dreadful question: Did you notice anything different about me today? because you know everything you say is the wrong answer. Yeah, that's true but to her, she's never enough for you and she just wants to be more than what you deserve. That's why she's trying really hard to make herself better so at least try to understand her. Tell her she's beautiful even if you didn't notice that she didn't wear any make up that day.  And girls, just because the guy did't notice you just got a manicure, don't get all worked up over it and went on a rampage. It's just one little thing that he didn't notice about you. But then again, maybe he did notice but pretends not to because to him, you look adorable when you're angry. HAHAHAHA!!!

And girls, don't ever think that you are never enough for him because if he truly loves you,

then to him, you are PERFECT!!

Situation 2: The Green Monster


Girl: Why were you talking to that girl again?
Guy: She was asking me if I could help her with her assignment.
Girl: And you believed her?
Guy: Oh, come on. Not again. We already talked about this. She's only a friend.
Girl: To you, she may be only a friend but who knows what you mean to her.. Bla bla bla (goes on a rampage)

or

Guy: Why are you smiling at my friend?
Girl: I was just being nice. Is that so wrong?
Guy: No, you were't. You were practically flirting with the guy?
Girl: What? That's ridicilous... blablabla..

(and it goes on)


Opinion: Yeah.. Sometimes, jealousy happens. If you never get jealous, then something is definitely wrong with you. It's normal to get jealous but if it happens too frequently, it can be unhealthy. Jealousy can sometimes be a poison in a relationship (badjet Dr. Love skjp). It's different when a girl and a guy gets jealous. I'm not sure whether guys get jealous more easily than girls or the other way round. But I think girls just like to make their guy jealous. Hahaha! I think guys don't usually admit that he's jealous because, you know.. with the egoistic attitude and all. And if he gets jealous, he looses. Am I right, guys. But guys, even though you don't admit it and try to act all cool and macho, yeah.. it kinda shows (that you're totally jealous). To a girl, when the guy she likes gets jealous when she's talking to another guy, her heart is probably screaming with joy because that means the guy likes her back. So I guess, girls really like to make the guy they like jealous. Hmmmmm..... But don't do that too often, girls. Your guy might get hurt, you know. They may pretend to be okay with it but who knows what they're feeling inside, right? And what if He did the same to you. How would you feel? You'd probably get angry with him. Am I right? And boys, try not to get jealous too easily and if you do get jealous don't pretend not to be and act all cool and macho. Talk about to that person and work it out. That way all that ill feeling in your relationship will go away (badjet Dr. Love lg skali).

Situation 3: Need Space

Girl: Why didn't you pick the phone last night?

Guy: I was hanging out with my friends.

Girl: And you didn't even bother to pick up and tell me that you couldn't talk? I was worried sick. I thought something bad happened to you.

Guy: Well, I'm okay, aren't I? And besides you called just to tell me you missed me. Nothing important. (shrugs)

Girl: Not important? (gets really, really angry and walks away)
Boy: (Gets angry to and shouts at the girl as she's walking away) Oh, come on! What are you mad at me for? You're the one who wouldn't give me any space! Can you not be without me just one day? Hah! Probably NOT!!

Why do boys say hurtful things they don't even mean? Really, boys? Really?




Opinion: Boys and their space. Never ever, ever, EVER, come between them and their space. I guess boys just don't like it when girls become too clingy.. Or do they? When a girl like s a boy and I mean not just like but more to love, she thinks about him 24/7. Hahahah!! Well, not literally. Come on, that's ridiculous. What I mean is, we tend to think of the boy we like a lot. So boys, that is why your girl keeps calling you or texting you every single day and asks questions which are to you are silly but to them, it means a lot that you answer those silly questions. Yeah... Girls are like that. So don't get mad at them just because they miss you every single minute of the day. It just means that they're thinking of you. It doesn't hurt to at least reply their messages and answer their calls, right? But if it gets too much, just tell them gently. They'll understand. Because sometimes, they don't realize just how many times they've been texting and calling you in one day. Tell them. There's no need to say hurtful things that you don't even mean. And yeah, maybe sometimes your girl would complain about you spending too much time with the guys but the the thing is you just don't understand how jealous she is of the people who get to see you every single day.

       So people, men and women may be different but sometimes, they need to put those differences aside to let love in. Cewah! Badjet je aku ni.. WAHAHAH!!!!

*sigh*
Love is complicated.

P/s:  Did you know?

               


       Lol. I just think this is funny. To all cat lovers, please do not be offended. 

P/p/s:  Last night, I dreamed that I made you a hot chocolate wit mushmallow in it. Hahah!!! What the heck??

Yummy!!

If this entry offended anyone in any way, I apologize.